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WELL-BEING TECHNIQUES // Glass Half Full, Or Half Empty?

July 11, 2016

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Is your glass half full? Or half empty? It’s an age old question, but still holds so true. If we see the glass as half empty then it seems we are edging toward the negative; we are not seeing the positive. If it’s half full, then we are almost certainly a more positive person. But is your ability to see it empty or full, determined by your attitude to life? And if so, can you change it?

It seems in life there are two camps. The glass half full. And the glass half empty. There may be a million reasons why one person is swayed to one direction of thought. There has been a lot of study, and I recently listened to a really interesting TED talk that looked at this in detail. It seems that our brains are hard wired to focus on the negative. It comes naturally to us. And if we are given options that indicate a loss in any way, then most people would be hard pressed to overlook that loss in favour of a gain. It seems that once we see something as half empty, it’s really hard for us to change our view to half full. But it an be done. With practice.

I’ve talked about gratitude lots of times here on the blog. But it appears that the simple act of asking yourself 3 positive things that happened at the end of your day, can turn a day of hideous havoc, into a day that was actually pretty good.

Looking at the positive takes practice. Hard. Dedicated. Practice. Because us humans are wired to see the worst. Now if you’re suffering depression and anxiety, then this hard wire negative line, will not help your well-being. In fact it will, without doubt, enhance the negativity.

How do you change your view?

It seems that even those more positive among us, will have a battle to see the positive in every day. But if you’re depressed or anxious, your job is going to be harder. But it can be done.

Start simply by beginning and ending each day with one positive thought or something for which you are grateful. If you can think of 2 or 3 things, then that’s even better. But you must be consistent. You must me dedicated to it. With practice it can change your hard-wire pessimism into positivity.

Either get a gratitude journal. Or a gratitude jar. The journal you write in each day. The jar, you think of one happy, positive thing that happened that day and put it down on a slip of paper. You put that paper in the jar. At the end of the week, month or year, you empty your jar and you are presented with hundreds of reasons to be happy and grateful.

I think the fact that we are hard wired to see the negative, can give you some comfort. You’re not a pessimist. You’re human. But if you’re struggling to find positive things in your life, because of your mental anguish, then a simple way to start is to practice being thankful. Even for one small thing. And as you do this, then the hundreds of negatives can be put to one side, just for a moment, as you bask in the happy.

Onwards my loves. Kiki xox

” You are smart, you are kind, you are beautiful and you are important.”

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Love – Gratitude. Be grateful

January 9, 2015

They say that when you come from a place of grace and gratitude that this can change your whole outlook on life. They say that with determined effort to change your mindset from what you don’t have to what you do have, you can move mountains. Now I’m not sure that this is wholly true, but being grateful has certainly has given me a very different perspective on everything.

Over the past couple of years of being unwell, I have done a lot of reading. From this reading a number of common themes keep appearing. If you want to be well and have a sense of well-being, then you have to be thankful. On this basis I made some changes in January 2014. I started to keep a ‘Gratitude Journal‘. This journal was a black notebook and I made a pledge with myself to write in it every evening before bed. The pledge was to find three things that I was grateful for in that day. It wasn’t easy at first. Particularly when you are kind of used to looking on the ‘dark’ side. But after a few days of really thinking about it, it started to get easier.

Each night I would write my three things. It could be anything from seeing my niece’s beautiful smile, to a new pair of shoes or just to have peace of mind that day. With time, patience and practice this grateful mindset has had remarkable effects on me. Without me realising it, over the past year, I have become a person who feels blessed. Not a person who feels victim to all that has happened to me.

Elizabeth Gilbert, writer of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ has a similar approach. She has a ‘Happiness Jar‘. In this jar she puts one happy thought per day. Written on a slip of paper. Then at the end of the year you can literally sift through a years worth of happiness. Looking back on what you have been grateful for and all that you have, is a truly humbling experience.

It is very easy to be negative. Particularly when you are unwell mentally and physically. Or life is constantly throwing you curve balls. But believe me, if you change your view to that of gratitude for all you have, it will become abundantly clear that you have plenty to be grateful for. Start today. Make it your new habit.

Onwards my Loves,
Kiki
xox

” You are smart, you are kind, you are beautiful and you are important.”

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