It’s all about the baby steps. I’ve had a good couple of weeks overall. I have been up and dressed with makeup on every day! I’ve been around the house helping with chores and even contributing to our never ending food purchase, preparation, and cooking conveyer belt, that we have all grown to love so much with healthier living. And I’ve been doing this pretty consistently for the past few weeks. Now, this may not seem like a lot to shout out about, but when you have lived life with depression, chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, then being part of such seemingly small things, is certainly nothing to scoff at. Continue reading
This is a simple and practical exercise to remind yourself of your greatness. Loving and accepting yourself is crucial to good mental health and well-being.
So, take some paper. And write:
- 3 nice things that someone said about you.
- 3 nice things you’ve done for others.
- 3 good memories.
Always keep your list near you – in your diary, journal or organiser.
Read it often. Remind yourself often, how wonderful you are.
Onwards, Kiki xox
” You are smart, you are kind, you are beautiful and you are important.”
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I don’t know about you, but when something is wrong with me or with those I love, I want answers. I’m not one for burying my head in the sand. I want a logical explanation for what’s going on and then I want a solution. I want tools to get me through; advice and support; real action. I do not want to be told ambiguous statements, such as ‘ You’re garden variety Kiki, it happens to many people.’ This is fine. It may happen to many people. But it does not happen to me?!
Well it did. And so the search began. Continue reading
‘You are strong!’ I can’t tell you how many times my loved ones have told me this over the years. Time and time again. I rarely believed it. I felt nothing like a strong person. I felt weak and timid and useless.
Strength and depression are not usually bandied about in the same sentence. It’s not something that a sufferer would think about themselves. When you suffer with depression and crippling anxiety, the last thing you feel is strong. You relate far more to a timid mouse! A lion? No! Continue reading
This time of year is intrinsically associated with a fresh start. It is a time where many of us look to make changes to our lifestyle choices, our self care, our negative habits, basically ourselves.
What worries me about this is that when that clock strikes midnight on the 1st of January, there is an immediate pressure to be a better version of yourself than you were just a minute before. So in the blink of an eye we go from living as we have wanted to, over the most festive period of the year, to immediately wanting to remodel ourselves; body and soul. Continue reading
With all this good advice and all the techniques and medications out there to help you feel good, how come we still have bad days?
The truth is everyone has bad days. Some worse than others. Some have bad weeks, bad months. The length of time is not important. What’s important is how you cope with those days when everything you try leaves you still feeling empty.
Quite often I will be riding high and everything is going like a dream. Life is good and most importantly, I FEEL good. Then you wake up maybe the next day and you know something is different. You’re not sure what, you just feel low, Lifeless, no energy, no get up and go. When these days come I’m usually suffering a bit of pms. Or I’ve been doing too much.
On these days give yourself love, kindness and care. Do NOT beat yourself down for not meeting your own high expeditions. Allow yourself time to heal. Knowing that when you’re able you will get back on track to bettering yourself in all ways.
The key is not to catashrophise the bad day. The key is to see it for what it is and accept that for this day you feel crap and you will likely not achieve very much.
Most importantly you have to be KIND to yourself. Think of all you have gone through, and how far you have come. Rather than beating yourself up that your down again, just remind yourself of your strength, and love yourself anyway.
Beating yourself up for not getting much done, or crying, or getting angry with someone, is not going to make you better. Time will pass and you will improve. It’s just hard to remember that as you tuck into the tub of ice cream to drown your sorrows.
Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. Tell yourself all will be ok. You are amazing and very brave and strong and any bumps in the road will only make you stronger in the long run.
Hold on to the great methods here on this blog, for feeling and staying well and all will come good again.
Onwards and upwards my loves. Huge hugs xx